Can you remember when your parents or teachers tell you to keep quiet when someone is still talking or when they say to talk kindly to others? Well, they were right to tell us those reminders even when we have no idea why. Now, as an adult, that simple reminder taught us many things. We learned that communication is the root of all relationships, and it has to have a speaker and a receiver. It is the very same principle our parents and teachers taught us. This basic rule is also known to every gracious woman. A gracious woman is a gift, and she possesses an innate genius that is entirely hers, one of which is her elegant speech, refinement, and knowing what words to say and act to discuss her cause or make a point without a commotion.
So here are some tips to have the elegant quality:
Avoid mixed-messages
One of the most common mistakes people get to have is sending off mixed messages and creating different expectations toward one another.
The reel world filled us with these in a vast choice of movies (romantic comedies, adventure, and others) that we forget that the real world is entirely the opposite! So always speak according to your actions or vice-versa, with no contradictions. Note that 93% of our communication is non-verbal and will always show in our tone of voice, facial expressions, body language, or gestures.
Show Respect at all Times
In arguments or conversations, the point is not to win. It is not making others agree with us. It is okay to disagree. We converse to learn from someone else.
Everyone has their unique perception of things or situations, even when you think they do not raise a point.
To listen and give attention to hear them would mean a lot.Do not assume that people have the same insights as you, and do not think your views are the only valid ones because the view of the other might be better or improve your ideas.
Speak the Truth always
A person with integrity would always do what is right, choose what is right, and imbibe truth. In a conversation, honesty is a must. No matter what happens, telling the truth is better than a white lie. Even when others will disagree or will not do so, a woman of grace will always choose what is true no matter the consequence. Speak of it as much as you can, with clarity, love, and gentleness. Concealed truth out of fear builds tension and big walls.
Seek first to understand than be understood
In talking with someone, we knew that we would listen with the intent to reply, not to understand. When we are in a conversation, our minds automatically formulate a reply. When this occurs, we decide prematurely what the other person meant before they finish their statements. We listen autobiographically: Evaluating, Probing, Advising, and Interpreting that we forget to understand. For a more productive conversation, we have to listen actively and empathetically. With this, more people would trust and have confidence in us.Use positive statements and humor.
Whatever the situation is, use positive statements and good humor.
Whenever you talk to someone, show the kindness you want others would show you. Upbuilding speech or words of encouragement will also produce positive feelings in others. Thus, when one needs a positive comment, initiate it.
This positive feedback should not cover a correction or a false compliment. Adding the right amount of humor and positivity would brighten our day and others.
So ladies, think of the word you speak because this also says a lot about who you are.
These days, we hear young and old speaking these, even in our music, movies, books, and even artworks. As gracious women, we must always say words that are true, honorable, upbuild, and gives off love.
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